Award ceremonies can range from extremely vacuous to profoundly moving affairs.
While I was working frantically in the press room at the IFTAs last week something caused me to pause.
Jacob McCarthy won the Rising Star award and his tribute to his mum and dad succinctly summarised the epitome of parenting.
“Thank you for not allowing me to be fearful of life’s potential.”
Not only is that statement relevant to parenting—friendships and the inner monologue in our heads should echo it too.
How often do we self sabotage out of fear, put off that bit of work, or not turn up to the events that would allow us to reach our full potential?
This week check the voice in your head and make sure it’s not serving you safe Plan Bs before you’ve given yourself a real shot at your ideal Plan A.
I can’t count the amount of times my brain has switched into existential crisis mode while I’ve been trying to make it in the media.
Work has been going exceptionally well but ignorant to that fact, my brain interrupts at least weekly and tries to convince me to jump ship into a “safe career”—one where I wouldn’t be in my element or working to my strengths at all.
Nonsensical advice, but not dangerous if you’re aware that your thoughts aren’t truths.
What is more dangerous is your social circle, be it friends or family, serving you the same advice.
If you’re regularly derailing yourself from reaching your full potential, check your social network.
At 25 I’m lucky to have curated a fabulous cohort of friends who all hype each other up and celebrate each other’s successes.
What vibes are the voices you hear dishing out daily? Do they help or hinder your self belief?
If you’re absorbing more of the latter perhaps it’s time to rejig who you entrust with your hopes and dreams.
If there’s even a whiff of jealousy, belittlement or contempt from anyone you share your time with, cut them out.
Life is shorter than we realise and it’s a bloody waste to live it tiptoeing around people who don’t support you 100%.
I often found I was afraid to reach my goals when the opportunity arose to realise them.
Marianne Williamson’s words spring to mind, a laminated copy of which was given to me in my final year of school.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
This fear was masked as I convinced myself I wasn’t ready to achieve my goals, so subsequently didn’t.
The reality was that I stopped myself achieving goals due simply to the fear of being able to achieve them.
We have to accept our own limitless potential as soon as we achieve something we set out to do.
After this we can’t continue living the way we did previously, ignoring all that we were capable of.
The truth is our goals are only ever minor markers on our greater journey of self development.
When you reach one, give yourself a pat on the back and set a new one.
Our goals and achievements don’t define us.
Our potential is infinite. The more we allow ourselves to grow, the greater our potential becomes.
Potential is not predefined or a finite resource.
We must be open to growth.
We must cease self limiting.
We must support the dreams of those around us and feed them self belief.
I’ll be making an extra effort this week to believe in my own unlimitedness. Join me.